Does Style and Confidence Coincide?
You know those days where something about your outfit just isn’t right and you spend the morning, before you leave the house, adjusting your hair or pulling your jumper down in an attempt to fix whatever it is that is wrong? You can never quite put your finger on it and it leaves you feeling deflated. Maybe you picked the wrong shoes? Are your tights just the wrong colour for that skirt? Is your scarf and coat combo making you feel a little uncomfortable? I get this feeling constantly. Sometimes it’s because I left the house in a rush, but as soon as I’ve walked out the door and realised I cannot go back to change, I become obsessive over it and my day is ruined. It sounds extreme, I know, but it has made me realise that making myself feel like me on the outside is the final ingredient for making myself feel like me on the inside. If I’m out and I feel great and confident in myself then the chances of my day being better, simply because I feel better in how I look, are significantly higher. It’s like Feng Shui or the idea ‘tidy room tidy mind’; confident look, confident mood.
You know in The Devil Wears Prada when Andy entirely changes her appearance and clothes and suddenly she’s getting on well in life? Well, I completely get that it’s shallow, unkind and unprofessional to judge her by her clothes in the beginning, but before her makeover (despite her intelligence and success elsewhere) she was under-confident. It wasn’t that she changed her style to suit the place she worked, she found it instead. She had never given clothes a second thought before and dressed comfortably, but allowing herself to find that style meant that she became herself, and her most confident self at that. You can tell because her walk is a whole lot sassier than it was before and her smile simply says I feel great and I know that I look it too.
I’m not particularly worried or interested in ‘blending’ in in public. I’m not super bothered about following trends and above all I would never change my outfit because someone made me feel bad about it, or because it didn’t ‘work’ for a particular situation. You and your outfit should go hand in hand and together you make a great team because one helps the other to look and feel good. I am disinterested in the idea that a person should change how they dress to fit in with a particular place or style. To me, that makes no sense. Who makes the rules and who has the right to look down on someone else for what they wear? But I do know for a fact that if I am having a day where I feel quite low, I can make myself feel better by blow drying my hair, creating a knockout outfit and perfecting my eyebrows. Moral of the story? Dress to feel confident, because good style (in the way that YOU define good, not other people) is a key element in feeling good about yourself.