5 Thing to Do Before Moving in with Your Friends
"Do they offer to help throw away takeaway boxes after you’ve both ordered pizza or do they just leave them on the side for you to deal with?"
Words by Georgia Gadsby
Whether you’re heading into your second year of University or just banding together with some mates to make your rent cheaper, you’re obviously reading this because, in some capacity or another, you’re moving in with your friends. It’s a hugely exciting step. You don’t have your parents watching everything you do, a partner wondering where you are if you’re home a bit late, or a bunch of randoms taking up the communal areas similar to a uni halls environment. You are choosing who you live with and you know it’s going to be a blast compared to all the living arrangements you’ve had before. Yes, it will definitely be a blast at times, but there’s five things you need to do before moving in with your friends to make it a positive blast and not an atomic bomb.
Make Sure You Spend Time With Them First
Whether you’ve known them for years or just a short period of time, make sure you’re spending a lot of time with them before you make the decision. Stay over at theirs or invite them to stay at yours for a few nights. Get to know their habits. Do they offer to help throw away takeaway boxes after you’ve both ordered pizza or do they just leave them on the side for you to deal with? Suss out what kind of housemate they would be and whether you could genuinely put up with seeing each other seven days a week. If you’re getting annoyed after one evening, it’s probably not the right move.
Figure Out Whether Your Habits Match Up
If you’re a morning person and they’re not, you’re going to have to keep the volume on your phone down and snoop around the house so as not to wake them up. The same goes for if you’re a night owl and they’re not. There’s also the habit of cleanliness. Do they clean up after every meal or do they leave their dishes in the sink for 3-5 working days? These may seem like minor things, but believe me, they become a very big deal when you’re contractually tied to that behaviour.
Sort Out The Boyfriend/Girlfriend Dilemma
If you all have partners this may not necessarily become an issue, however, if you’re single and your other housemates have partners (or vice versa) the single party may become irritated by the amount of time the partner spends at the house, especially if it’s often. This is not necessarily about the person, but more about external factors such as the water and electric bill and also the fact that the single party agreed to live with you, not you and your partner. Be considerate and discuss this with your potential housemate first.
Consider How Much Drama Your New Housemate(s) Might Bring to Your Life
The amazing thing about living on your own, with parents, or your comfy ensuite in halls is that you can avoid everyone if you need to. You can come home from a stressful day, sit in your room and binge watch Grey’s Anatomy to your heart’s content, but when you live with friends this doesn’t always tend to happen.
If your friend is the one to bring a bit of drama to your life and you love it, that’s great, but do you honestly want to live with it? It can be fun on a night out or at work to hear a bit of gossip, but do you want to bring that home with you every night? Make sure you know that you’re not going to have to be up until 1am every morning discussing personal problems when all you really want is to be asleep.
Double Check That You Are Actually A Sociable Person
I guarantee that when you live with your friends there will be at least a few times where you hear a knock on your bedroom door when you really just want to be alone. It happens, we all need alone time and that’s fine, but consider whether that would be you all the time. If not then great! Go ahead and live with you besties that will be knocking on your door just to get you to cut the tag out of their clothing and check their outfit or to have a little gossip about the neighbors, but if you’re aware that you’re more of the recharging type that needs time alone to then go out and be social, living with your friends may not be for you.